Tips on How to Let go Ex Husband

Last Revised on August 16, 2011

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Relationships are always expected to last long when made in the beginning. Among them marriage is taken for granted to last till then end; but that’s not usually case. Either people change or we learn that our spouses are not someone what we thought they were. Break up happens and followed by divorce process. Husbands may easily forget that they were even married not long ago, but women tend to keep thinking about spouses even after divorcing him.

How Can Women Stop Thinking About Ex Husband:

Letting Go Anger and Resentment: The first step towards forgetting about your ex is to get rid of anger and resentment towards him. These two traits are stronger than love and attachment – meaning hatred will make you think about him more than if you just loved him. Just think that, after all he is a human and is not without imperfections. Now you are at least glad that you won’t have to deal with arguments and stress in that abusive relationship. From within, forgive him; but you don’t have to tell him about that.

Know Why Letting Ex Husband Go is Hard: Often times it’s the women who initiates the divorce procedure even though the husband might be the who brings the topic first. Women don’t like to be in several relationships, especially marital. They hold their husband very dear, and only end the marriage when they can’t take it anymore. Your spouse might threaten to leave you but as a women you do things to keep the marriage alive. So know why after careful thoughts and conversations why it ended at the first place.

It Wasn’t Your Mistake, Was it? Did your marriage ended because of your wrongdoings, his abusive treatments or little bit of both? If it was your ex husband who treated you wrongfully everyday and decided to end the marriage, then forget about him. That’s the best for you since he didn’t care for you as a wife. However, if you decided to leave him and still having hard time not thinking about him, then see if you can have a closure with him one last time. Make up your mind; that will help you now and later on.

You Deserve to be Happy: Everyone has a right to happiness. Just like your ex husband is happy without you now and wasn’t happy before in a marriage, you ought to bring happiness into your own life. If he doesn’t want you, so what; there are so many guys in this world. It may take time to find a good guy and eventually marry him, but in between you should enjoy your life just like everybody else. Many women suffer post traumatic from ending relationships and gradually moves on; so will you.

Most Effective Way to Let Go Ex Husband: Finding a replacement is the most effective way to forget about your ex husband. Now a days it is so much easier to find a partner on the internet. There are so many dating sites and they make it very easy to find a type of guy you want to fall in love with. You might even find a better person than your ex. Only different this time is that you know what type of guy you are looking for and the ones to avoid.

Break all the connections: If you are very desperate to forget all about your ex husband, then stay away from things and places that remind you of him. Avoid looking him up on the internet and going to place where you might see him. Get rid of items at home that make you think of him. You can even seek a counseling. Also don’t stress too much over how you can stop thinking about him.

Stay positive: When you think positive, you are more calm and relaxed; you can control your life effectively. Negative emotions can ruin you. The best things is to make yourself busy with activities you like to do. Join a gym, walk and jog everyday to keep yourself healthy. Surround yourself with friends, family members and people  that make you happy or at least smile. Enjoy life.

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11 Responses to “Tips on How to Let go Ex Husband”

  1. Amy K Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    I can’t even think how some people live their life like this. People who are in love with someone’s spouse need to get into therapy – a serious relationship counseling. See a psychologist. I am not saying anybody who falls for other woman’s husband is crazy of some sort; but it clearly shows that such person needs to clear her hearts and mind first. You are in such situation because you are needy; if you keep acting like a doormat by becoming dependent on that kind of man, then you will suffer from emotional turmoil later in your life. How can you guarantee that this man won’t do the same against you? None of the traits of such husband are attractive. Just let go and live his own new married life. Get your own life together.

  2. relationship healer Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    What tips does anyone really need? Do what you can to bring or forget your old marriage and plan for a new better one. Paranoia is not going to make it any better. Get some couples counseling if, however, you want your marriage restored. Live to be happy, not depressed. Good lasting relationship is better than falling in love with one guy after another.

  3. What Love Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    When a girl who I was good friend with separated away from her husband but still held feelings for him for many years, her family recommended seeing a marriage counselor or just agree to separate completely.

  4. sunlove Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    it’s seem that you’re planning to work towards a divorce instead of putting in effort into your marriage

  5. sunny_beach_7 Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    I don’t know what to tell you. Six months into the marriage and he’s feeling this way? If you are happy and nothing has changed over those six months, then I would think the issue may be with him.

    Is he depressed? I don’t really know what you could do. Tough situation.

  6. Michelle S Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    My husband and me went through marriage counseling in the beginning but when we both realized it is not helping us out we tried to stay strong but it didn’t work out at the end. I myself evaluated for the reasons why I got married with him at the first place and why it lasted longer than many people I know who got married at the same time as us. It is still very hard to not think about him once in a while even though we broke up three years ago and finalized the divorce process just a year ago. It seems he is still into me somewhat as evidenced by him not marrying anybody else or it could be he hasn’t found the right woman as of yet. who knows.

  7. Lovely Relationship is Over Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    I don’t want to spend a lot of time thinking about my exhubby but it is very hard. Maybe it is because I have been extremely dependent on him until break up. Now that we live separately, I am trying to get a better career and plan goals for my future. my friends have told me as an ex wife I should not make love to him don’t give any sort of affection and don’t get affection or expect one either. if he ask u tell him i can’t do this to myself if you don’t know what you want doing this “acting” like a loving wife hurts badly.

  8. Cherokee94 Says:
    August 12th, 2011 at 4:33 am

    Hun just try to do your own thing for a while and don’t focus on him. He should love you for you and only give love if you are receiving it. If he leaves you, well so be it. You are your own person and never depend on anyone. Your best friend is yourself.
    Even when you are in a completely and faithfully in love with a person, you should never fully trust the person because there is a danger that this will cause how your partner to think that he or she can do whatever with no consequences.
    I hope everything works out for you. All the best :)

  9. PNL Says:
    September 24th, 2011 at 5:32 am

    shitty advice. If u havent healed u shouldt b trying to get a “replacement”, u will only either getting a crappy wheel instead of a car or end up going back to ur ex hubby. U need to build ur self esteem first n be happy by yourself. Only then will u attract the right parnter

    I really like baggagereclaim.co.uk. That is good advice!

  10. Love is pain Says:
    November 29th, 2011 at 9:07 pm

    Been separated for 3 years and divorce for 1. I never really dealt with the divorce because we still loved each other and remained constant in each others lives. I thought we were getting back together until he told me the reason he stays in my life is because he is “comfortable”. I have since cut all tides. Some people say things eventually get easier, I am still waiting for things to get better. The healing process is by far the worst. My advice is to vent to someone who has experienced divorce. They can help you through it. For now, I’m trying to focus on myself and let karma take over.

  11. nuva Says:
    November 28th, 2013 at 3:31 am

    Till now, we didn’t get divorce. But he wants. I love my husband like a crazy mad. but the question is why i love this kind of guy who really does not care about his wife? he hurts me in every seconds, every moments. I m going to die. but i love him. i love him. what i will do? how i can be a strong woman? How?

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