Tips for Dating Guys Older than You

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As simple as it looks how easy it is to date someone, it can get quite complicated when the person you are trying to date isn’t similar to you. Race, height, career and education level aside, age is one of the biggest contributing factors to the dilemma of whether it is appropriate to be with that person. Yes, you can date anyone you want, even if he is much older than you; but subconsciously you will always be wondering about the age difference between the two of you.

Age limit. Is it ok to date guys older than you? Yes, dating guys older than you is ok but there is a fine line somewhere down the line – meaning you just cannot be dating men who are your father’s age let alone the guys in your grandpa’s age range. How old do you have to be to date an older guy? Usually if you are over 18, you can date guys of any age. However, if you are only 17 years old or younger the older guys feel bit uncomfortable. Even though love knows no boundaries and you fall in love with anybody.

Long lasting relationship. Why or why doesn’t the relationship with older men work out? Speaking bluntly the older men might be dating the younger girl due to physical attraction to a young fresh skin, if you know what I mean. Whereas the much younger girl may be into the older men because he has a lot of money and that attracts most women, believe it or not even though most women will shrug off and disagree with this type of viewpoint. But that’s the truth. They each believe their relationship benefits them both.

The real differences lead to break up. What eventually ends up happening in this kind of relationship is that older men finds out he has more options – can find many girls who similar (whatever that attracted him into) to that younger girl he was seeing. Or the younger girl realizes she has more choices to achieve the goal (that made her date him).  Better yet, they both realize they have more differences than similarities and it is not worth spending time or living together.

Finding older guys to date. If you have never been in a relationship with older men or just simply always prefer to date older guys, then online is the best place. Unless your definition of “older guys” reaches between the guys whose age range are between 5 to 10 years older than you, it will be really hard to find one since our society still sees it as a taboo to some point unless you are Hugh Heffner or some celebrity. Whereas with online dating sites, they give you the option to customize your dating preferences where you can also include the age range for the guys you are willing to date.

How to stay in a relationship with older guys? In all honesty, your motivation behind dating older men isn’t money but maturity. In such cases, you have to find an older guy who is not only mature enough for his own age but also respects you as an girl who can make her own decisions. Relationship stay longer when both guys and girls respect each other and are able to compensate the differences and is in real love with each other.

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3 Responses to “Tips for Dating Guys Older than You”

  1. hmm... Says:
    July 11th, 2011 at 1:41 pm

    just say this young girl is 21 and dating someone that is 37 years old, is that wrong?

  2. Similar Says:
    February 15th, 2012 at 8:32 am

    Nothing is wrong if its for the right reason and no harm comes out of it. -23 in love with a 37

    I totally agree. Although in our society we tend to focus on sugar mama or suga daddy surrounding the hollywood, but there are lots of successful relationships between couple with wide age differences.

  3. always dated older men Says:
    May 17th, 2012 at 11:39 pm

    I have always dated older men…yes always, my “high school sweetheart” was 8 years older than me and he is the youngest man I have ever dated… or taken seriously. In my case, men my age bore me and I am above thier mental level… I find I have nothing in common with a man my age and they get on my nerves so bad that I can’t wait to be alone

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