love and dating for older adults

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What do you do when you are a single parent and the other party is also single, whether he or she has a child or not was a discussion for another time? If one of you is divorced and another is separated but hasn’t finished the divorce process completely, that makes it even more complicated. There comes a time when one of you want the other more than other and delve into moving together a lot of time during the day and before falling asleep.

Tips for love, dating and marriage for older adults

Since you both are mature enough, it is really good idea to share what you think of each other honestly. Things won’t be taken personally, but rather generously and the women will realize are taking the relationship seriously.

Don’t push it however. Yes, both of you are old, but there are still plenty of time to move in together to a house. Time will come, but don’t always be pushing the men to move into your house. Just because he is not ready for settling together right now doesn’t mean he is not committed to you. Commitment can’t be forecast on one thing.

Respect each other. When you hit your middle adulthood age, you know you have a lot of experience about how life should be lived. Especially, you know what works for you. Similarly, your lover has his or her way of doing things and coping mechanisms. Both of you should take time to learn about those essentials and respect them while dating.

Differences will be there. There is no way you will find a great guy or girl who is just like you – interest, hobbies, thoughts and perspectives. Even though you both have few or more differences, you learn to live with that.

When it sounds like you’ve waited as long as you are comfortable. Here’s what some recommend: step back for a while–not a long time, just a couple of weeks. Talk with him first and let him know what you’re doing (taking a break to think about the situation) and why (you’re feeling like maybe this isn’t the right fit anymore and you’re considering opening yourself to the possibility of a whole relationship with someone, rather than living your life like a camper). If in two weeks he doesn’t miss you terribly and want the whole package, then start seeing other people. 50 is not old and you have plenty of options out there. You can still remain friends with him and have the “best” part of the relationship while keeping your options open for something more completely satisfying. My guess is, he’ll see you in a whole new light, and by the time he wises up, you’ll have found Mr. Even Better!

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5 Responses to “love and dating for older adults”

  1. ♥Loving Sprit♥ Says:
    November 23rd, 2010 at 8:37 am

    okey since that time is here maybe you should remind him…he’s probably waiting for you to ask….=) don’t,ask him if he want to marry you.if he says no,be friend and move on

  2. jaieic Says:
    November 23rd, 2010 at 8:37 am

    If I were in such situation, I won’t wait for the guy i would just tell the guy, if he has a understanding it could lead to a great relationship and soon a wedding.

  3. Bob Parson Says:
    November 23rd, 2010 at 6:37 pm

    The best advice I can provide is that the partners has to be open and honest with each other, be willing to act receptive to your the men or woman’s viewpoints. Listen to what other has to say. Loving relationship last long when there is a good give and take balance of caring along with open mindedness and sharing.

  4. Love Guru Says:
    November 24th, 2010 at 5:37 am

    When you really need to talk to him you should know that you are an equal partner in a relationship – more, in fact, since the woman is the manager of the relationship.

    So the question is what do YOU want? If you want to get married you had better tell him and fast. If you’re 50 then you know that feeling like, I only have so many years left, what do I want to do with them? When you are old enough and have a lot of time, you will have those thoughts all the time.

    How much longer will you compromise what you really want? Trust and communication are the keys to a successful relationship. In this instance I think that communication is key to overcoming this obstacle.

    Why in the heck will a men or women in their 50s be so hesitated about getting married? That doesn’t make sense. It sounds like he doesn’t want to do it and he’s making excuses.

  5. New20 Says:
    November 24th, 2010 at 8:37 am

    It is plain and simple as this: ask yourself first what’s more important? The relationship or a piece of paper saying you’re man and wife? However, if marriage is important for you, which I don’t blame, you need to hint around a little and if he doesn’t catch the hint come right out, then tell him how you feel, because your not getting any younger and time waits for no one.

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