Best Way to Get Over a Break Up

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There are many different ways to get over a break up whether it happened just recently or you are still depressed about the break up that happened a year ago. Truth be told, that break up was going to happen; it was just a matter of time unless there were chances of either you or your relationship partner changing the attitude toward each other. I will reveal what I think is the best way to get over a break up, handle your life and move on at the end.

So How Do You Get Over A Break Up?

Break up happens quite often, because couples think they can easily find another boyfriend or girlfriend. One thing many of us don’t realize is that it is not so easy to find a good suitable person to date, especially through the bar scene. And now more than ever our world has become so introverted that many of us rely on online social networking sites to find a date; and those of us who are little bit more brave or maybe desperate go on a one higher level up of finding a relationship partner on dating sites. But to make this long story short, you shouldn’t have broken up with your nice girlfriend or boyfriend to start with if you couldn’t get over it – because it was solely or mostly your own fault. If that’s was the reason behind heartbreaking relationship, maybe you should consider reaching back to that person and apologize for how you mistreated. You can even see if that person is available and willing to get back together. On the other hand, if breakup in your relationship was caused by the your girlfriend or boyfriend and not you, you shouldn’t worry too much about it then. After all, it was not your fault; and you would have sooner or later had to get out of that nerve wrecking relationship. Just be glad that you don’t have to go through all the depression and abuses, if you suffered any, anymore. These are the kind of attitude you should carry to move on with your life. Just be positive and live with a happy mentality. And that’s how you handle a break up.

How long does it take to get over a break up?

It will depend on many factors and individual length of time to getting over a break up will vary. Imagine if that person was your first boyfriend or girlfriend; it could take months and months to ease your mind from thinking about all the good memories you two had together. On the other hand, if this is your say like 20th breakup, then I would doubt it would take even a week to recover from that. There are also times when someone you loved so much to an extent where you would have done anything for this soulmate ended up breaking up with you; now that would be devastating for anybody, whether it is a teenage girl, emotional boy or a mature husband or a wife. It would take time to heal that broken heart. One of the best factor to determine how long it would take to get over a break up is the attitude of the person. If the person wasn’t in true love, he or she would mend his or her heart within a day if not hour.

What’s the best way to get over a break up?

So as I promised before, I would reveal my best tips for getting over a break. The best thing to do is to evaluate your decision and priorities. Evaluate what, why and how of this break up; what, how and why it happened. After you realize the unbiased answer, decide what should be your priorities then and from now. This priority will not only help you move on but also prevent the same from happening again. The lesson you learned from mistakes you committed are the greatest lesson you can learn. So when the break up phase is over, you will know what you should and shouldn’t do with your future love. If you are married, it might be a priority to save the marriage for the sake of kids and not ending in a divorce court settlements.

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4 Responses to “Best Way to Get Over a Break Up”

  1. jhay Says:
    September 2nd, 2010 at 10:17 am

    I bought a manual called save a breakup system and I gotta admit it helped me a lot, this manual teaches you tricks how to get your ex back, how to heal a broken heart, and how to breakup if you want to..I love it and it works great

  2. anthony c Says:
    April 12th, 2011 at 6:32 pm

    grow a beard
    drink alcohol
    smoke cigarettes

  3. Marital Hierarchy Says:
    July 18th, 2011 at 5:03 am

    Too many people stay in marriages just for the kids. It’s a misnomer that causes an epidemic of divorce and dysfunction in children today. Children have an uncanny ability to pick on underlying behaviors and emotions. If you’re in a marriage that’s filled with turmoil and you make the decision to stay in it for the children, you are doing them a horrible injustice. In cases like these you are doing it too them…, not for them. The children will learn what a bad marriage looks like and more than likely will emulate that as an adult rather than a healthy loving one. I believed that “the kids come first” idea was correct for a long time. However, in the Holy Bible it is stated that it should be God first, Marriage second, and Children third in that order. It took me awhile but I understand that now. When you put kids first you spoil them, are not teaching them to be as independent as they can be, they develop a sense of entitlement, and they will more than likely end up in a dysfunctional marriage themselves one day. When you put the order of God, Marriage, and Child in place…, you are actually in a sense putting the children first. It is through that hierarchy that the husband and wife or more likely to succeed and stay together, giving the kids a more healthy and confident outlook when they’re grown up and ready to get married. Putting your kids first may seem like a sensible thing to do initially…, but if you give this great thought you’ll realize that so much of the spousal neglect that occurs today will be removed if you just put your marriage first, increasing the potential of lowering the astronomical divorce rate that exists today, and more kids will have BOTH their parents and a better chance at succeeding themselves. Parents are suppose to groom their kids to get out there in the real world one day, not smother them. Husband and Wife are suppposed to grow closer and closer until they day they die. That is how it was meant to be. Some of you may not agree, but the truth will reveal itself in the end. Don’t blame me when you kick yourself in the butt in the end when you realized you made a mistake that’s too late to do anything about. I didn’t make the rules. God did that! The Bible exists for a reason. It’s a book of decisions, not destiny. Remember: God, Marriage, Kids…, in that order, will create the best possible result for the enitire family. Beleive it or don’t. As I said, I didn’t make the rules. They were here long before any of us were, and the way I see it.., how dare any of us challenge things that obviously have more knowledge and understanding than we could ever possibly have in one life time? Good luck and God speed.

  4. brokenhearted Says:
    September 26th, 2011 at 9:47 am

    This doesnt help at all, I mean it does if you stay positive and think about all the bad stuff and realize your better off without him or her but when you work with the person that you were in love with and broke your heart, how do you get over that when you see the person EVERYDAY, this guy lied to me, cheated and made a complete fool out of me… For four years I’ve done nothing but dedicate who I was to him, I completely lost myself in the “relatioship” and only to please him, I always wanted to make him happy and so I did whatever it took, wether it was by always driving when we went out or always paying, and even giving him money when he “needed” it, for all those times he told me he cared about me, how I was all he wanted, he said he would do anything for me cause I was worth it, he even told me I was the only girl he’d ever been himself with… how do you get over something like that? This guy was my life and I put him ahead of everyone else, my family, my friends and even myself.. Never have I been so betrayed or broken hearted

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